I started to write about Mental Health yesterday as I had received so many messages where people who had suffered from trauma still felt unworthy, different and had still depletions of self worth. It frustrates me, as many people could be helped if the general public did not go into denial, turn their backs or hide away from the situation. Why do they do this?
There are many reasons for the above, mental health is an uncomfortable subject to deal with, people feel ashamed, uncomfortable and the easiest route for most is to deny it is happening. This is because the majority of people do not know how to handle it, cannot understand, and then become embarrassed about mental health, even when it is happening to their closest and dearest. A circle emerges that must be broken, as the lack of support leads to a downward spiral for those who need it. Lack of education is one of the biggest problems and because mental health is not a priority amongst other illnesses, it becomes over looked.
If people who are suffering do not receive the correct support, it is not surprising that they feel depressed, suffer from low self esteem and generally have difficulty in building themselves back up. People who have suffered from abuse or other mental health problems have had this self respect and self worth knocked out of them, it doesn’t take anyone long to gather that if they are NOT given the support to build this confidence back, then it can take a long, long time to recover. Some people unfortunately do not gain their confidence back. This so frustrates me, as a fellow sufferer I can empathise with people who have lost their self worth, and it is so infuriating that these people still suffer as in many ways, these people have actually probably pulled themselves through more battles then most. These people most likely should have a high sense of self worth as they have had the courage to fight through and pick themselves up from the darkest of places where many others would fall and remain there.What is also made worse is that the people who do not understand what people are going through, do not only NOT give support, they can make matters worse in their ignorance by saying the wrong things, and through their own ignorant actions pull people down. Many people who have suffered from a bad past are very vulnerable and sensitive, and this also makes matters worse as any slight ignorant motion from someone who should be in a position to care, can have significant down effects.
By coincidence to this blog, I have just received a review for my book where the reviewer actually states they suffer from mental health problems, but it is clear from the review they have no idea about child abuse. Yet they are quick to judge and throw an opinion. Although this could be taken as hurtful, it is actually useful as it demonstrates clearly how the general public still do not understand the nature of suppression and grooming. It shows that people are ignorant on how many years it can take for the suppression and denial to come to the front, and also how the effects of child abuse plays on the mind. I was writing a sequel to my fist book, as I value insight, yet this last review together with the many messages I have received shows there is clearly a lack of mis understanding of mental health, and I am also thinking of writing a plain book of simple facts and detail of how people actually feel when they suffer from some mental health problems. This blog still leaves me feeling frustrated as many people who have suffered from mental health problems deserve much better care, acknowledgement and understanding. I sincerely hope that one day this information clicks into place, and that the people who should be taking action to improve things do something about it, in the meantime I hope people believe in themselves, and lift their heads up high as they so deserve better.